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When is it OK for your daughter to pierce her ears?
21 Jan 2015


I did not make this up. Marmar's quip about having enough holes in your body without making any more was annoying at 13, but it gave me a good excuse to give my friends teasing me about my unpierced ears. Marmar had a gift for finding that elusive balance between understanding my need to ' fit in ' with my friends, and at the same time stick to her decision. She stayed calm too, I don't recall her shouting or giving in. Not easy when you have a daughter constantly pressurising you to change your mind. This week, notice what helps you to stick to a decision - I would love to hear your tips on this one.  


Marmar was my mum.  Her legacy to my sisters and I includes parenting wisdom, wit and a bottomless pit of patience.  She had her flaws though, as all parents do. I didn't realise how much she meant to me, and to my daughters, until she died. 

So many parents have told me they miss their own family being nearby to help bring up their darlings. I thought you might like some parenting tips from Marmar. A small act of kindness written with love like Marmar would, to help you with all the modern problems of raising daughters.  She would prefer me to write a proper letter to you, but she had a habit of leaving notes for us written on the back of old envelopes on the kitchen table.  I hope you find these jottings useful and fun. Marmar would want you to put your feet up to read them.
This is also an invitation to share your own  'Marmar' stories. A friend told me her mum always said " It will be alright in the morning." What did your mum, or dad, do or say, that you have found valuable in raising your darlings? Please do share your memories for all of us in the comments box, or on the Darling Daughters Facebook page.