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Not to be Thrown Away
2 Feb 2015


Marmar was a wonderful hoarder and an enthusiastic recycler. Her house was stuffed with cardboard boxes piled up with papers, junk mail, letters and brochures waiting to be read, recycled or "Put to good use" as she would say. The fridge contained an interesting range of foods well past their sell by dates, alongside saucepans of unidentifiable leftovers that would be transformed into delicious soups. She was alarmed by our wasteful society, where so much is bought and thrown away.  My daughters loved visiting her - there was never a shortage of old junk to play with, or our 1970s childhood clothes to dress up in. In clearing her house out, we found this note teetering on top of a large cardboard box bulging with old newspapers. I keep this treasured snippet of her handwriting nearby to remind me to think twice before putting something in the bin - the right one of course. This week, what do you remember of your own ' make do and mend' childhood that you would want to share with your darlings?  Do let me know.

Hayley Williams - 4th February 2015
A lovely memory of your Mum and with an ongoing reminder with her note too. Thinking about what we can keep and reuse too is something we should all be reminded about from time to time so thank you! Look forward to hearing more of Marmar's insights...
Jane Horwood - 4th February 2015
Love this idea of blogging! Very effective.
Janet M - 2nd February 2015
Congratulations on your book! I'm glad to see that you have started your blog.


Marmar was my mum.  Her legacy to my sisters and I includes parenting wisdom, wit and a bottomless pit of patience.  She had her flaws though, as all parents do. I didn't realise how much she meant to me, and to my daughters, until she died. 

So many parents have told me they miss their own family being nearby to help bring up their darlings. I thought you might like some parenting tips from Marmar. A small act of kindness written with love like Marmar would, to help you with all the modern problems of raising daughters.  She would prefer me to write a proper letter to you, but she had a habit of leaving notes for us written on the back of old envelopes on the kitchen table.  I hope you find these jottings useful and fun. Marmar would want you to put your feet up to read them.
This is also an invitation to share your own  'Marmar' stories. A friend told me her mum always said " It will be alright in the morning." What did your mum, or dad, do or say, that you have found valuable in raising your darlings? Please do share your memories for all of us in the comments box, or on the Darling Daughters Facebook page.